Hi, I’m Sioban.

Entrepreneur, Community Creator,
Lifestyle Brand & Mentor.

I help others pursue their passions.

Pisces sun, Taurus moon,
& Aries rising.

Currently:

Reading : A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle

Living In : San Diego, CA

Singing : Foolproof – Hayden James, Gorgon City, Nat Dunn

Listening To : The GaryVee Audio Experience

Favorites.

Color : Red

Flower : Roses

City : New York City

Drink: Champagne

Workout: Weight Lifting & Yoga

Self Care: Bubble Bath

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Sometimes when you’re in it, you forget why you’re in it.

You forget why you’re putting in the extra hours. Why you’re saying “no” to temporary fulfillment. Why you can’t just settle for mediocre.

Slow down, take a step back, and think about how far you’ve come. You didn’t get this far to only to get this far.

When I’m overwhelmed or feel like I’m not progressing in the ways I would like, I come back to my vision.

I ask myself “where would I be a year from now if I keep doing what I’m doing?” And I remind myself that where I am today is a result of everything I’ve been doing for the past year.

You’re on the right track. Practice embracing the process.

My type is me. Dreamy, emotional, romantic. Wakes

My type is me.

Dreamy, emotional, romantic. Wakes up every morning wanting to be better. Believes in herself. Believes in people. Loves herself extra when she’s down. Strong. Grounded. Open. Accepting. Loves hard. Feels deep. Shows up for the ones she loves. Shows up for herself. Listens intently and sees others deeply. Pushes herself to do the tough, but necessary, things. Sees her downfalls as opportunities to grow.

Falling in love with yourself is a journey.

It’s doing the hard things, like walking away or opening up. It’s forgiving yourself for your pain. It’s loving yourself through your mistakes. It’s reminding yourself what you bring to the table. It’s being your biggest advocate.

So love yourself a little extra today, you deserve it.

I used to HATE commitment. Meetings, year-long l

I used to HATE commitment.

Meetings, year-long leases, 2-hour parking (lol); you name it, I hated it.

One of the biggest reasons was because I never followed through. Whether I overslept, over-exhausted myself to the point of canceling or straight up forgot. I rarely held my commitments and it felt like a constant reminder to me of how “not together” my life was. So I never committed and if I had to I would do so very reluctantly.

A few things that switched my mindset:

1. What specifically you commit to is important. Only commit to things that are a “hell yes”. Anything else should get a “no” or “I’ll let you know”. Take the extra second to process what you’re signing up for.

2. Sometimes you need a healthy level of pressure to keep your promises. For example, if you’re looking to get into a gym routine but usually fall off after a month or so, putting extra money towards a personal trainer gives you more incentive/accountability than a $10/month gym membership.

3. Your commitments are a form of self-respect. When you’ve disciplined yourself with commitments that work for you, you’re subconsciously telling yourself that you are someone worth showing up for. This is important as it creates consistent balance and structure in your life, something we all need.

4. Commitments aren’t as binding as they sound. You can always change your mind later. You probably will. We are constantly evolving and shifting. Commitments are just your current routine. It’s really not that big of a deal.

Your pain is true but it is not forever. I have a

Your pain is true but it is not forever.

I have a very vivid memory of when I was living in Washington DC. I was on FaceTime with my best friend crying on my bedroom floor. I was trapped in an emotionally abusive relationship and had just hit rock bottom.

I remember being in so much emotional pain that it had manifested into my physical body. I couldn’t sleep or eat. I was exhausted and starving. I was feeling abandoned and insecure, grasping at whatever hope I could find.

In that moment she told me something that I would carry with me forever: “I know you’re hurting and it feels like it’s never-ending. But I promise you that you’ll blink and 2 hours will have passed. Then 2 days, 2 months. Before you know it, it’s been 2 years and you’re stronger than you could’ve ever imagined. You will get through this.”

She was right. 2 years have gone by since that moment and I have accomplished things that I had only dreamed of back then.

I have people in my life that support me, I run multiple businesses, I live in a city where others come to escape. I believe in and trust myself. I understand my worth and what I deserve. I am not afraid to demand respect. I take risks and I’m not afraid to make mistakes.

Things never make sense in the moment. But when you look back on everything you've been through, you understand why it had to happen.

BRB leveling the fuck up. Put your blinders on an

BRB leveling the fuck up.

Put your blinders on and go. Don’t worry what people are saying. Don’t worry if you mess up. Just start.

The only way to truly fail is if you quit.

In order to become someone you’ve never been, yo

In order to become someone you’ve never been, you need to do things you’ve never done.

It’s going to be uncomfortable. You’re going to want to quit. But up-leveling your life requires you to show up as a different version of yourself.

As you evolve, you outgrow your current circumstances. People leave, things fall apart, you start to question what the hell you’re even doing with your life.

And just when you’ve hit rock bottom and you’re ready to throw in that towel, something shifts.

You begin to see the opportunities in front of you that can get you to your dreams and you’ll be faced with a decision: be who you’ve always been and say “no” or step into the unknown version of yourself and say “yes”.

Embrace it. Even if you feel broken. Even if you doubt yourself. Even if your voice shakes. You’re ready.

PS - I’m opening up some 1:1 mentorship spots soon! DM if interested. ❤️

My biggest demon has always been my emotions. Fo

My biggest demon has always been my emotions.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been terrified of how deeply my body feels. Emotions so easily manifest into my physical body that it’s created a deep-rooted fear of life itself. At times I’ve been afraid to even be alive because I didn’t trust that I could handle the unknowns.

I’ve taken a lot of time to build trust within myself and anchor down into my intuition. It’s a daily practice and something I have to remind myself of often.

Why build up your inner trust?

The more you trust yourself, the less you’ll seek validation and security from others. The less validation and security you seek from others, the less intense you’ll be knocked down by the impermanence of life. This is very important if you identify as an empath.

Why is this important?

You can’t trust that you’ll never get beaten down or torn apart by external people and events. It’s apart of life itself. But you can trust that you will pick yourself up and take care of yourself when you do.

My demons can still rear their ugly heads every now and then, but I trust that I can pick myself up and move through it when they do.

I don’t chase happiness, I chase peace. When yo

I don’t chase happiness, I chase peace.

When you chase happiness, you’re also running away from pain. You might cycle through friends or lovers, have a need to constantly be doing something “amazing” with your life, or numb yourself with drugs/alcohol/experiences out of desperation to feel happy again.

I’ve been there. And what I’ve learned is this:

You can’t have light without dark. You can’t have the highs without the lows. When we’re so focused on being happy, any other emotion suddenly means we’re failing. That job can’t be right for me because I’m overwhelmed/stressed. This person can’t be right for me because they challenge me. That THING must be wrong because it’s not making me happy RIGHT NOW.

Peace comes from within. When you are at peace with yourself and the world around you, you’re accepting of whatever comes up. You don’t feel resistance to things that challenge you or make you feel uncomfortable. There is an openness within you to become more present, to learn and to evolve.

Peace is being okay with the fact that no one, no thing, and no place can ever be perfect. It’s recognizing that “boring” is better than “dramatic”. It’s not having to prove yourself, force, or fight. It’s staying even when it feels hard.

Peace allows both sides of the coin to exist.

Welp. Covid finally came for me guys. Halfway thro

Welp. Covid finally came for me guys. Halfway through my 14-day quarantine that’s so far consisted of:

• canceling my trip to Boston
• sleeping for two days straight
• binging season two of Outer Banks in one day
• rearranging the entire apartment
• one too many mental breakdowns
• re-starting therapy as a result
• cooking elaborate meals
• contemplating getting a dog
• watching @marielweber brush the cat

It’s been a good time. #sendhelp

You drew stars around my scars. 💫

You drew stars around my scars. 💫

I’m at peace when I love unconditionally. I don

I’m at peace when I love unconditionally.

I don’t force. I don’t fight. I don’t push for something that doesn’t want me.

I accept everyone in my life where they are. And if I start to slip up, because we all do, I step back and realign.

When I love unconditionally I allow everyone and everything to flow accordingly. I don’t take things personally, I don’t get wrapped in drama. I work on myself and stay open.

You don’t know the depths of where people have come from or what they’ve gone through, even if they tell you.

There are even parts of you that you’ve yet to uncover.

No one is perfect. Not even you.

All this to say: be kind. It’s good for your heart. The way someone treats you has nothing to do with you. Often times they’re doing their best not to fall apart.

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. We of

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.

We often see others’ successes and not the work it took them to get there.

A thriving business with a passionate owner, a loving and stable relationship, the freedom of spending time on your own terms. Whatever thing you’re idealizing in your mind, I have two things to say about it.

Number one: if you want it, if it sets your soul on fire, it’s within you to go and get it too. You have what it takes. It’s not impossible and it’s not out of reach. It just requires a different version of yourself to achieve it.

Number two: you have to be willing to show up and put in the work. Have those tough conversations, work on yourself, collaborate with others, be open to the impossible. Anyone with something you want did the work to achieve it.

There will always be more to do and a greater goal to achieve in life. Sometimes you feel beat down, overwhelmed and without direction. Tired of this continuous cycle of forward movement. Stay on course, keep your vision. The universe removes to replace. The things in your life will either rise with you or fall away, allow them the space to do either. Rest when appropriate. And express gratitude for how far you’ve come. Live in your current moment. Because you’re living a life now that some people only dream of.

A few weeks back, I was convinced to take someone’s board out just to watch the sunset on the water. Well, I accidentally caught a wave on my way back to shore…and the rest is history.

Currently in the process of learning how to NOT get tossed around like a drowned rat. 🤙🏻🏄🏻‍♀️🌊

After a long day of work, you’ll find me here by

After a long day of work, you’ll find me here by the ocean. Dipping my toes in the water, *attempting* to surf, or taking in the beautiful view.

The water has become a critical element of grounding for me. It’s been bringing me back to the present and cleansing me of the daily stresses that consume my mind.

Still in awe that I get to call this city my home. For the first time in my life, I’m not feeling compelled to book a flight to escape. My escape is a 20 minute drive.

It takes massive courage to face yourself. Part o

It takes massive courage to face yourself.

Part of facing ourselves is taking ownership of our pain. Our pain stems from trauma, and a lot of us spend our time running away from things that make us revisit this trauma. We avoid people, places, things until we don’t feel it anymore. We blame external circumstances so we don’t have to change-because changing is hard.

And yes, you may get to a point where you’re over it but you’ll never get to a point where you’ve healed. You’ll still find yourself in new situations repeating the pattern, unsure why it keeps happening to you.

Healing takes courage. It requires you to put your ego aside and admit that you contributed to the creation of your pain. It requires you to feel it as deeply as it runs through you, trusting that you won’t get stuck in it and it will pass.

On the other side of this work is a new understanding of how to move through the world. How you should treat yourself and others. What you need to change and work on within yourself.

It’s so easy to stay the same and feel the same pain over and over, to some extent it’s comforting and you know it. You know this pain so you’d rather stay. But limiting your pain also limits your happiness.

The deeper I feel my heartbreaks, the deeper I feel love with any person after that. The deeper I feel loss, the deeper gratitude I have for everyone and everything in my life. The deeper I feel unworthy, the deeper my self-love and self-respect runs. The deeper people hurt me, the deeper I understand it has nothing to do with me.

The secret to joy is actually mastering your pain. It’s facing yourself. And that takes massive courage.

Walking away from a much needed weekend. The past

Walking away from a much needed weekend. The past two months have been filled with a lot of changes and transitions - some good and some bad.

I tried going at it alone only to dig myself into a deeper hole emotionally. It’s hard not to feel weak or like you’re burdening other people with your problems. But embracing vulnerability and reaching my hand out to see who grabs it, I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the ones who decided I was worth showing up for.

I’ve learned that loving yourself also means you’re deserving of love and support from others. You’re not a burden when you ask for help. You’re not weak because you need help.

I’m walking into August feeling hopeful, which is something I haven’t felt in weeks. But I didn’t get here on my own, I got here with people who believed in me.

You know who you are. ❤️

I think space is underrated. In the fast paced w

I think space is underrated.

In the fast paced world we live in, it’s easy to believe you aren’t being or doing enough. We compare ourselves to other people and we exhaust ourselves to keep up this facade that everything is okay in our life. When we feel overwhelmed, discouraged or sad we hide it from the world, embarrassed that we’ll be seen in a negative light. I hate that.

Some of the most beautiful things in my life have come from me giving them space to grow. This could mean taking time to reflect on a situation, rest and recoup, or sitting back to let something develop on its own.

If you ever think that you messed something up, you didn’t. The things that are truly meant for us will always come back and work out. The things that are not will be realized in time.

The space is exactly what’s needed.

Lately I’ve been learning how to truly accept my

Lately I’ve been learning how to truly accept myself. Accept that I am not and will never be perfect. That showing up without a mask is the only way people can truly love me.

The more I’ve gotten to know myself, the more I realize I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I’ve always been scared to explore myself and my desires or be my true self around others because of that.

Recently I’ve been practicing vulnerability. Sharing thoughts, feelings and ideas regardless of what people might think or say. Yes, I’ve encountered people who aren’t into it..but I’ve also connected with people who fall more in love with me simply because I am who I am. They love listening to me talk about the things I’m passionate about, or learning something new from me.

It’s been a very empowering experience and has encouraged me to embrace all the things that interest me, no matter how “weird” they might seem. I’m connecting MORE with people I resonate with and less with people I don’t.

Anyways, a little life update for you. Learning to be myself more and more everyday.

The things in life that make me feel most whole ar

The things in life that make me feel most whole are the things that most people reject.

People don’t like that I’m quiet in the mornings. People don’t like that I want to be alone most of the time. People don’t like that I’m spiritual. People don’t like my simplicity.

I don’t view myself as better than anyone but I constantly meet people who want to prove they are better than me, “fix” me, or label me as weak. When I’m judged in this way, I make myself smaller to fit the image they created of me, out of desperation for acceptance and love. I take advice I don’t believe in, I don’t speak my mind, I wear myself out trying to keep up with their life. I end up proving them right.

Eventually something gives and I’m left to re-build my inner world alone.

I’m learning that people who are triggered by me will be triggered regardless. I want to surround myself with others who can accept me as I am and let me be. Who are open to learning from me as much as I’m open to learning from them.

I’m not weak, I’m not wrong, there is nothing here to fix. I am simply whole.

I get asked a lot why I forgive people so easily.

I get asked a lot why I forgive people so easily. The answer is this:

Nothing is ever black and white. You’ll never know the whole story of people. You can waste days, months, years trying to figure someone out. Or…you can accept them as they are, where they’re at in this moment. It is not your job to change someone, serve karma, or prove your worth. The way we treat the people around us is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. We’re all on our own journeys of self discovery. You cannot judge someone for not having gone through their lessons yet. It’s through hurting others and being hurt ourselves that we learn these lessons and grow.

I do not hate anyone who has done me wrong, I thank them because they are the reason I am who I am today.

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