goal setting: being honest with yourself

I figured since we’re in the last quarter of the year, let’s talk about goals! I honestly don’t set goals every month or every quarter, I’m more of a sporadic goal setter. But I do know a lot of people set goals quarterly, and I’ve been in a goal setting mood recently..

Let’s get into it. There’s that ongoing joke about how we set our goals and half of them we don’t succeed at. Let’s touch on why this happens. In my opinion, there’s two reasons:

  1. We set too many goals
  2. We don’t plan a proper execution

we set too many goals

There is always something you can improve on. ALWAYS. And sometimes the reason we don’t get anywhere is because we are trying to change too much at once.

I’ll use my gym routine as an example. The ultimate goal for me would be to work out almost everyday.

If I were to say to myself “okay, I’m going to get up at 6am everyday and go to the gym”, that’s completely unrealistic for someone like me. First of all, I need to get up at 6am, something I already don’t do. Then I have to drag my butt to the gym? Give me three days and I’ve given up.

Sometimes you don’t even realize that you are setting multiple goals at once. Make each goal as SIMPLE as possible. This doesn’t mean EASY by the way. Basically, there should only be one habit you need to implement to complete each of your goals.

Instead of my goal being “get up at 6am to go to the gym”, one goal should be “go to the gym ____ days per week” and a second goal should be “wake up earlier”. And if we’re following the “one thing” philosophy, which goal out of those two should I be focusing on?

we don’t plan a proper execution

Back to the gym goal. Currently, I do not get up early. I also don’t do anything else in the morning other than journal and get ready for work. So, to say that I’m going to get up an hour earlier than I normally do everyday just to do something that I’m not totally into just yet…unrealistic. Doesn’t make me lazy or unable, it just means it’s not how I roll.

Don’t waste your time telling yourself you’re going to do things that you know you won’t do. And don’t bite off more than you can chew. To even say that I will go to the gym everyday is a stretch for me because I don’t already do that. Start with where your comfort zone is and add a challenging factor.

I currently make it to the gym 2-3 days out of the week. That’s my comfort zone. So my plan moving forward would simply be to go to the gym 3-4 days out of the week. Doesn’t matter when and doesn’t matter for how long.

Not only do you need to make simple goals you need to make SPECIFIC goals. I am going to the gym 3-4 days this week, and before the week starts I pick which 3-4 days I’m going. Now the only thing I need to do is go that one extra day than I normally do.

Hope this little goal tidbit was helpful! Leave a comment with a goal you have to end the year with!

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