when what you want is not what you need

Sometimes, what you want and what you need are two completely different things. Add emotions to that and it makes the decision process even more difficult. Add being a Pisces to that…dude you have no idea.

This internal battle has been an on-going theme in my life that I’ve had to constantly work on and come back to. I’m extremely influenced by other people, so creating boundaries and giving myself time & space has been crucial to my growth.

I wish I could give advice on this topic, but all the advice I would give feels kind of like bullshit (for lack of a better term). This stuff isn’t easy. I usually hit rock bottom before doing what is truly best for me. So I can’t sit here and give you ‘steps’ on how to do the best thing for you all the time. That’s just not me.

What I can do is tell you what I know to be true: no matter how many times you fall off, you need to get back on. And if you keep getting back on, you will learn to stay on.

Growth isn’t a constant climb upwards. You go up a little, then down. Not gonna lie sometimes you go down a lot. The trick is to not be hard on yourself. You need to forgive yourself for being human-another big theme in my life.

You will find yourself in situations where what you want does not match what you need. You may get frustrated with yourself for not wanting what you need, or falling victim to what you want-once again. But you’re human. This is life. It’s a lesson to be learned.

If I had to give one piece of advice…..it would probably be to make time to care for your mental health, in whatever way resonates with you.

If you’re currently in a good head space, take notes: who is in your life, what are you doing with your time, how are you taking care of yourself? Write this down for when you get stuck in the future, because you will get stuck-we all do.

If you’re currently in a bad head space: who is in your life, what are you doing with your time, how are you taking care of yourself? Next: pick one thing. One thing, that if you did this, it will impact your life immensely. Maybe it’s taking time away from people who are hurting you, starting a new hobby, journaling. Whatever it is, do it. And do it everyday.

When you prioritize something small that is good for you, it will give you the momentum & strength to tackle the bigger things.

I hope you enjoyed this post, these are the topics I’m truly passionate about. I’d love to hear from you and let me know your thoughts and additional advice on the subject.

xx. sioban

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